No matter how hard we try, self-doubts haunt us all. From time to time we all worry about what other people think of us. The good news is that it's possible to overcome these doubts and become more confident.
We all have good and bad days. To some extent, every new experience makes us feel better. Some of us may feel that there is no way out. This feeling may be more common than we think. It's just that people keep it to themselves. They don't share their feelings with anybody. We all think that some things are our fault. We believe that we are the reason for our bad days. This is where confidence comes in. It makes us start believing that we are the reason for our good days. Here are some ways to boost your confidence!
When do you need more confidence?
When we need confidence is something that comes to most of us, especially if we are introverted and don't have much of a social life or are shy. I give this answer that confidence is not about mostly developing it is but about accepting our strengths and God-given abilities.
Let's take an example of this scenario that; Mary is a good singer and Her friends are also aware of the abilities Mary has, but Mary on the other hand thinks that she is not good enough to sing on the stage. So Her friends keep on pushing Mary and she actually accepts her gift and decides to eventually perform on stage. So did Mary need to develop confidence or did she have to only accept that she was gifted?
When it comes to acquiring more confidence, I can say that there is no specific time or place where we should use our confidence because confidence is a part of us which we should work on accepting rather than developing.
How to build confidence.
Here are ways you can use to help you in the confidence acceptance process;
1. Be proud of every little achievement
To be able to embrace Your gifts and abilities fully, it is important you also take pride in every little achievement you achieve. The more you find gratitude in everything, whether good or bad the more you repeat the task and do it better each day, because you are no longer invalidating yourself.
An example of this is; Been grateful that you were able to write that business plan for your business even though you have not yet started the business.
2. Believe that you can achieve what you want to achieve.
When you were a child, you probably thought that anything was possible. You didn’t have any doubt that you could be anything you wanted to be. You were ambitious, enthusiastic, and dedicated. But somewhere along the way, you might have lost that spark. Or maybe you feel like you’ll never be successful.
This is what society does to us. It makes us think that we can’t be successful at everything we want to be.
We learn that it’s impossible to be a doctor, an astronaut, or a singer. But don’t let society hold you back. You are capable of anything you want to be. Don’t let anything stop you from achieving your dreams. Believe in yourself. Believe that you can achieve what you want to achieve.
3. Never compare yourself to others.
It’s easy to look at someone else’s life and compare it to yours. We all have someone who has something we wish we had, but it’s important to remember that everyone’s journey is different.
If you compare your life to someone else’s, you are always going to come out short. You have to remember that everyone has their own journey. Maybe you’re not meant to have the things that person has yet. Maybe you’re not meant to live where they live or to have the same job they have, and that is completely okay.
You are you, and you are supposed to live the life you are meant to live. So don’t compare yourself to others. It’s okay to look at what other people have to offer, but don’t let it make you feel bad about yourself. You are perfect just the way you are right now, and you are supposed to live the life you are meant to live.
4. Develop your own interests
You need to have your own interests because these are the things that will be interesting to you. Your interests will also play a huge role in making you authentic. By been, authentic to yourself are able to embrace your abilities and perfect them. You can’t fake your interests. If you are interested in something you should own it because it wants makes you.
5. Learn to be more outgoing
It is important to know how to be comfortable in social situations because it will play a big role in building self-confidence.
They are simple steps you can follow to be an outgoing person ;
1. Spend more time with people
In order to be outgoing, you have to spend time with people whom you are comfortable with and can also learn from them.
When first starting out you shouldn't start with huge gathering places which you are uncomfortable with rather you should start with small sizeable groups with which you are able to interact easily. You can also take a friend with you if you feel uncomfortable doing it by yourself. By practicing this well, you will soon be able to interact easily.
2. Know your social likes
By knowing what you are socially interested in, Interacting with other people will be easy because you will have so much in common. For instance let's say you like playing the guitar and you go to an event where people only play the piano, chances are that you won't enjoy the event as much.
3. Ditch your comfort zone
By jumping into the unknown and trying new things which you were not familiar with before, will help you gain a new perspective on things.
6. Love yourself
We've all heard that we need to love ourselves. And yet, many of us are completely unaware of what that even means. So, what does self-love mean? Self-love (and self-acceptance) is about putting yourself first. It's not about having a narcissistic attitude or being selfish.
But it is about being aware of your own needs, and being able to prioritize them. It means being able to say 'no' when you need to, without feeling guilty or worrying about what others would think. It means being able to ask for help when you need it, and being comfortable with being alone.
Practise Self love in your life more often.
7. Focus on your strengths
A lot of people are trying really hard to be better in everything and by doing so they are unable to focus on their main strengths. A better strategy is to focus on your strengths. Instead of trying to be everything to everyone, focus on what you are good at. This will make you stand out from the crowd.
8. Stop negative thoughts
When you feel like your life is falling apart, or that you are losing control of your life, you start thinking negative thoughts. We all do it. It's human nature. It's like a safety mechanism, helping us avoid danger. The problem is, the safety mechanism becomes the problem. When you are constantly worried, fearful, or worried about the future.
What you can do is to first take note of the thoughts and journal them down. Eliminate the thoughts which you cannot control and only focus on those within your control.
In life, self-confidence is one of the main driving forces to achieve your goals. Do not look for confidence from others, take matters into your own hands and start building your own confident image. The more you focus on your positives the more confident you will feel.
We hope that with the information we have provided , you will be able to build your self confidence and achieve your goals. We love to hear from our readers , so if you have any questions or comments, please leave them in the comment section below and we will get back to you as soon as we receive them.
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